For Better Forever by Dr. Gregory and Lisa Popcak
exceptionalmarriages.com
NFP: ccli.org
Gift: what you should be to your spouse
Grow together in your Xtian identity
Invite each other to experience original unity
Foster companionate and romantic love
Treasure the sacred power of marital intimacy
St. Paul: See those Xtians, see how they love.
original unity God intended for man and woman
sacrament: the power to sanctity, grow in rel with JC
a vital and deep love for prayer life, HS
your faith changes everything, makes each of you God's gift to each other
self-donation: a kind of love, heroic generosity, completely loving to the other
What do you need from me?
4 components:
Grow
Invite
Foster
Treasure
marriage as growing together in Xtian identity
the values you wanna uphold & stand for
living up ideals and values
who I wanna be known for
daily life and choices reflected by those values
how to apply what the church teaches
strong identity or not
values reflected in choices & actions
eternal wedding feast
a clear sense of mission & helping each other live it out
a marital mission statement: spouse & children
list 3 or 4 most impt qualities
1. love
2. joy
4. self-control
3. compassion
5. humor
6. generosity
1. LOVE: patient with me
2. RESPECT: understanding his personality, where he is coming from
3. ACCEPTANCE BUILDING UP ONE ANOTHER
separate but complementary ways to nourish each other
marital grace, embrace
be JC to your spouse
learn to be those things he needs you to be
men and women are fully masculine and feminine when they are loving
an invitation from God to be the person He wants us to be
companionate love: deep friendship, core of rel, heater and a fireplace (char, homey, cozy), kps warm and comfy
romantic love burns up a lot of energy, time
you don't have to live up to each other's hip pockets
gives me an excuse to be with you, share exps (ftball)
JP II: self donation
be your spouse's bf
have conversations abt what she's doing
help me be a better friend, supportive
added spark to hubby's eyes, spring
stop being afraid & resistant, be self donative
opportunities for frndshp
I dnt care what it is we do as long as we do it together.
romantic love: impt part of sacrament of marriage
appreciate how much God loves them
love each other passionately
song of songs
st. catherine of siena refers to God as her passionate lover
intimate, passionate union bet God & humanity: a great mystery
marriage: captures the romantic heart of God
visual: see what needs to be done
God gives you your mate so that you can become who He wants you to be, cannot become that w/o him
2 diff schs of Catholic sexuality:
sex is holy
as long as i think holy thoughts, i don't care what i do with my body (heresies)
sex is the celebration of the sacrament
physical union
JP II: theology of the body: look at each other w/o lust
sacramental power of marital intimacy
1. guard each other's dignity: no name calling
5:1 ratio be conscious
1:20
10:1 ratio of positivity & negativity
be observant
attentive, generous service to each other: I'm here for you, I love you
serving each other
Be each other's mad lover as a sign of His love for you.
Approach lovemaking joyfully.
lovemaking is a recreation of wedding vows.
draw strength from each other
what the sensual rel is all abt
reexp wedding vows
intimacy, communication, trust, self-mastery
create a community of love, a family
become like the trinity
the gift of natural family planning (NFP): a discernment process
approach each other in prayer
a lover's prayer: let me kiss her with Your lips, let me love her with Your undying passion
share bodies and souls in intimate union, talk to God together
powerful prayer life together
ask God how to understand this gift He gave you
Lord, help me be the spouse You want me to be.
exceptionalmarriages.com
NFP: ccli.org
Gift: what you should be to your spouse
Grow together in your Xtian identity
Invite each other to experience original unity
Foster companionate and romantic love
Treasure the sacred power of marital intimacy
St. Paul: See those Xtians, see how they love.
original unity God intended for man and woman
sacrament: the power to sanctity, grow in rel with JC
a vital and deep love for prayer life, HS
your faith changes everything, makes each of you God's gift to each other
self-donation: a kind of love, heroic generosity, completely loving to the other
What do you need from me?
4 components:
Grow
Invite
Foster
Treasure
marriage as growing together in Xtian identity
the values you wanna uphold & stand for
living up ideals and values
who I wanna be known for
daily life and choices reflected by those values
how to apply what the church teaches
strong identity or not
values reflected in choices & actions
eternal wedding feast
a clear sense of mission & helping each other live it out
a marital mission statement: spouse & children
list 3 or 4 most impt qualities
1. love
2. joy
4. self-control
3. compassion
5. humor
6. generosity
1. LOVE: patient with me
2. RESPECT: understanding his personality, where he is coming from
3. ACCEPTANCE BUILDING UP ONE ANOTHER
separate but complementary ways to nourish each other
marital grace, embrace
be JC to your spouse
learn to be those things he needs you to be
men and women are fully masculine and feminine when they are loving
an invitation from God to be the person He wants us to be
companionate love: deep friendship, core of rel, heater and a fireplace (char, homey, cozy), kps warm and comfy
romantic love burns up a lot of energy, time
you don't have to live up to each other's hip pockets
gives me an excuse to be with you, share exps (ftball)
JP II: self donation
be your spouse's bf
have conversations abt what she's doing
help me be a better friend, supportive
added spark to hubby's eyes, spring
stop being afraid & resistant, be self donative
opportunities for frndshp
I dnt care what it is we do as long as we do it together.
romantic love: impt part of sacrament of marriage
appreciate how much God loves them
love each other passionately
song of songs
st. catherine of siena refers to God as her passionate lover
intimate, passionate union bet God & humanity: a great mystery
marriage: captures the romantic heart of God
visual: see what needs to be done
God gives you your mate so that you can become who He wants you to be, cannot become that w/o him
2 diff schs of Catholic sexuality:
sex is holy
as long as i think holy thoughts, i don't care what i do with my body (heresies)
sex is the celebration of the sacrament
physical union
JP II: theology of the body: look at each other w/o lust
sacramental power of marital intimacy
1. guard each other's dignity: no name calling
5:1 ratio be conscious
1:20
10:1 ratio of positivity & negativity
be observant
attentive, generous service to each other: I'm here for you, I love you
serving each other
Be each other's mad lover as a sign of His love for you.
Approach lovemaking joyfully.
lovemaking is a recreation of wedding vows.
draw strength from each other
what the sensual rel is all abt
reexp wedding vows
intimacy, communication, trust, self-mastery
create a community of love, a family
become like the trinity
the gift of natural family planning (NFP): a discernment process
approach each other in prayer
a lover's prayer: let me kiss her with Your lips, let me love her with Your undying passion
share bodies and souls in intimate union, talk to God together
powerful prayer life together
ask God how to understand this gift He gave you
Lord, help me be the spouse You want me to be.
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